For the next few days, I was energized, and more content than I’d felt in weeks. It occurred to me that we experienced something that night that we couldn’t have expressed back in the day. — Tim O’Connor
“My little mantra to myself was keep swinging; keep swinging hard at it even if you’re not hitting fairways, just keep swinging,”
I’m learning that grief is strange. I’ve found the greatest solace comes when I recall a particular memory with Corey or, say, study a picture of him and drop fully into the pit of my anguish.
Intentions also foster heightened awareness of what we’re doing, thinking and feeling. They help us stay present. They remind us that when we react when we inevitably screw-up, we can respond by focusing on our intentions.
Confidence comes from being under pressure, making mistakes and recovering from them. From these experiences, you learn that you can overcome the many vagaries of the game and those in our life.
Something was released in me that had always been there, but I had bottled it up behind a façade of reserve, a need to stay vigilant and protected.
Maybe this loss, which sucked and still sucks, will be one day be looked upon for the Jays, for the hard-core fans and everyone who jumped on board, as a gift.
I coach highly aspirational golfers who are seeking to overcome their mental heebie jeebies when they most want to play well, which is what we all want—for ourselves and for the teams we root for.
Focusing on what you want to avoid means you’re worried about the future. Focusing on the task at hand allows you to be in the moment, present.
